Putting
me first, seems to be such an alien concept to so many of us. But this is
important, not only because times are changing, but it is important for any
individual. “Me first” is a concept of considering your own interests and your
own happiness as the most important, and to cater to one’s own needs first. Mentioned below are few pointers which will
provide food for thought regarding the concept of "me first" :
Why I am scared of putting "me first"
1.
I am not
selfish to put me first.
Most of the time I consider “me
first” as equivalent to being selfish. I feel guilty about catering to my needs,
about me being happy, about me being content, about me being in command of my
life, especially when I compare my state with my friends and relatives.
2.
I want
others happy, even if its on my cost.
I want other’s happy and I try my
best to make them happy even if I have to sacrifice my happiness and my interests.
I feel that others may not be very happy, if I consider my interests as
priority. I want them to think good about myself, and hence I give priority to
them and their needs.
3.
It will
have adverse effect on my relationship with others.
I feel that if I put my interests
first, people around me will take me in a wrong manner, and may move away from
me. I feel that they may think of me as arrogant and selfish, and hence to save
my relationships I should not put myself first.
Why I should put "me
first"
1.
“me first” is not about being selfish, but it’s a concept ensuring
my own welfare so I will be able to take care of others in a better manner. It’s
about loving myself but not as an obsessive lover, it’s just about catering to
my interests so that I can focus on others without worrying about myself. . As
per Merriam-webster dictionary, definition of selfish is ”seeking or concentrating on one's own
advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others”. Me first is not about disregarding others,
but its about considering my own wellbeing in a positive manner.
2.
If I do not put me first, I may not feel truly happy. My
unhappiness will reflect in my mood and in
my vibes. The same unhappy vibes will be rubbed on the people around me and it
will make them unhappy as well,
3. I can make others happy, if I am happy myself. Let’s assume
happiness as a product, similar to chocolate. I will be able to distribute chocolate
to others only if I am carrying it myself. If I myself do not have chocolates,
then how will I distribute the same to others. Similarly, if I am happy and
content with my life, then only I will be able to make others happy. My happiness
should not be dependent on others; it should be unconditional. If each individual become responsible for his
or her own happiness, world will become better and a happier place.
4. "me first" concept not only makes me satisfied person but also help
me in becoming a better personality. I will become more confidant of myself.
And we all know that people love to associate themselves with confidant person.
I am sure that being confidant will win me more friends then you I have ever
imagined.
5.
Once I start putting “me first”, I will feel less stressed about
myself and my surroundings and I will be able to focus better on your task at
hand.